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The Rules. The Rules II. The Real Rules. Get Real. There are no hard and fast Rules to follow when seeking a mate.

The person that you are, is the person you will attract. There aren't any Rules that will change this fact. Sure, through manipulation, deceit and dishonesty you might attract a mate that appears to be perfect for you, but as soon as you stop playing the games and reveal your true self, it may be realized that you are not perfect for them.

The first and final love is Self Love, and once you Love yourself, you WILL attract love. The Rules is a book filled with game playing. A few of the games it suggests we play are:

Don't talk to a man first Be honest, but mysterious...

I say, nonsense! "Be," yourself. You already possess everything you need to attract a compatible mate, just remember:

Listen to your inner voice (Intuition) We all want to love and be loved. "I'll love you if... I'll marry you when..." Don't believe the hype! Real love is unconditional, but Self Love is a prerequisite.

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