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# I've been seeing this guy for 8 months. The relationship isn't going...

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I've been seeing this guy for 8 months. The relationship isn't going anywhere. He doesn't work, he doesn't have a car and he doesn't even take me out. I do care for him a lot though. I recently saw this guy that I hadn't seen for a long time. Since then I haven't stopped thinking about him. He recently broke up with his girlfriend and I want to start seeing him and getting to know him more before we get into something, but I'm scared to move on.

I really don't know what I should do. I know my future isn't going anywhere with the person I'm seeing, but I hate to be alone. That's why I haven't moved on, having someone is better than having no one. I don't want to get rid of one person and start seeing another that I know I won't see very often. I also don't want to try to stay with this guy I'm with now and when I get ready to move on, the other guy will have someone else.

I just don't know what to do. I know I have to make a decision. This new guy knows that I'm seeing someone and he doesn't want to get involved in a situation like that. If I knew we were going to hook-up I would definitely get rid of guy #1. What should I do?

You've got the something is better than nothing syndrome. To be honest, something really isn't better than nothing. According to what you've written, you'd be better off without guy #1. You are wasting your time with him. Being alone for a while really isn't as bad as it seems. It will allow you to find yourself , while you're looking for a man.

Nothing in life is guaranteed. Get rid of your excess baggage (guy #1) and start dating guy #2. If the two of you hit it off, a serious. healthy relationship may be closer than you think.

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