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# I am a 21 yr. old virgin, who was sexually assaulted the other day by someone...

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I am a 21 yr. old virgin, who was sexually assaulted the other day by someone I hardly know. Some say I should press charges but I don't want too many people in my situation.

I know I don't want my family to know. I am also just starting a relationship with a real nice guy. I don't know if I should tell him or not. People are worried I might develop issues with men, if I don't get help. Tell me what you think.

Don't worry about what "people" may think or say. You were assaulted, and that person should be held accountable for what he/she did.

You don't want your family to know? It seems that you have feelings of shame, which you should not have. I suggest that you:

You will find that they (your family & your man) will be very supportive, and help you through this extremely difficult time in your life.

National Coalition against Sexual Assault

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