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# I am a 22 year old woman married recently to a 28 year old man. I was a...

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I am a 22 year old woman married recently to a 28 year old man. I was a virgin till I got married. Before the marriage my husband told me that he had sex once before. Keep in mind that I come from a very different cultural background and a country where premarital sex is not common.

I said that it was okay and I got married to him. He loves me very much, but lately I have been having problems. Whenever I think of him doing intimate things with another woman, I feel physically ill & disgusted.

I also feel sad that I did not have sex before marriage. I have no intentions of cheating on my husband, but how do I get over these thoughts?

Get over those thoughts by getting over yourself. You have absolutely no control over who he slept with before he met you. None.

Since you "come from a very different cultural background and a country where premarital sex is not common," why in the hell do you feel sad about not having sex before marriage?! Let's try to make sense here, lady.

You've got issues, get a clue.

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